Abortion: Finding a safe place to talk in complete confidence about either a planned or previous abortion is usually an essential part of letting you experience freedom from crippling anxieties, doubts, and fears concerning abortion. Your counselor’s role is not to tell you what to do but rather to create a space wherein you feel safe enough to share your thoughts and feelings as they help you to navigate them and find balance and peace.
Pregnancy: Issues concerning pregnancy can relate to those concerning the pre and post conception states as well as those related to the problems with conception, pregnancy or birth and in the period after the birth of a child. These difficulties can affect the mother, the to-be mother, women desiring to have a child and family members. Counseling can help you to get a grip over your doubts, anxiety or feelings of guilt and responsibility.
Coping with Life Events
Aging: Ageing is a natural process, however, one that causes significant gradual changes in an individuals life. Often people find it difficult to adapt to life after retirement. While on the one hand there are changes in health conditions as well as reduced mobility, there tend to be feelings of isolation and loneliness on the other; Counselling can help because people navigating retired life benefit from having someone to share their deep worries and concerns, which they are not comfortable sharing with their families and partner.
Grief / Loss: The death of a loved one or the loss of anything that is significant in life can lead to people experiencing anger, grief or hopelessness. The loss can be the life of a pet, a friend, a relative or a loved one. It can send you into feelings of despair and confusion. You may also feel like avoiding talking with friends and family, and you may feel lost since there is nobody to tell you what to expect and how to cope. Nobody can replace what you have lost. In such times talking to your counselor can be comforting as they will listen to you and share with you strategies of coping with your loss.
Illness and dying: Acute or chronic disease as well as contemplating the end of life can impact individuals emotionally. Both patients and those around them may encounter feelings of sadness, confusion, depression, and anger. Counseling can give the opportunity to explore these feelings and find balance and acceptance.
Coping with Abuse and Violent events
Abuse: Physical, Sexual or Emotional: If you have endured Abuse it means you have gone through experiences from individuals, that has harmed you. These may be happening presently, or they may have occurred in the past. Further, they may be of the nature of physical, emotional or sexual behaviors from others. You may have emotional backlogs from these incidents affecting your present life and functioning. Talking to a counselor can help you appreciate how the abuse is harming you. They will also help you feel positive about your life now and in the future. Moreover, since the counseling relationship is confidential, you can talk about your difficult relationships feeling safe and secure.
Violence/ Victim support: Experiencing or even witnessing a violent event will likely have an ongoing negative influence on peoples lives. Feelings of fear, disbelief, anger can occupy the mind. Physical effects may be felt in the body. One may even find that they no longer feel confident about carrying on with life as before. Loved ones who have experienced violence need reassurance that ‘everything is ok.’ Talking to a counselor can give them this reassurance.
Post-traumatic stress (PTSD): After a severe traumatic event the feeling of distress can, and the symptoms can persist for a while. It is not uncommon to feel a range of disturbing emotions such as anger and anxiousness. You may find it difficult to put the event out of your mind. Sometimes this can develop into the more severe condition called Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) wherein there is the experience of:
- Flashbacks/Nightmares – that the cause the memory of the event to be relived in mind repeatedly.
- Avoidance Behavior – One may try to keep busy so as not to meet or think of anyone or anything that may revive the memory of the event.
- Excessive ‘on guard’ feeling: One may stay anxious and alert all the time without being able to relax or sleep.
- Physical Manifestations– There can be pains and aches, diarrhea, headaches, feelings associated with panic/fear/depression uneven heartbeats.
Counseling therapy can help by guiding the individual on relaxation techniques as well as by assisting them to think differently about their experiences.
Sexual abuse: This refers to situations wherein an individual is persuaded or forced to engage in a non-consensual sexual act. These acts can often be violent and abnormal. While sexual abuse is generally of a physical nature, but with social media and the internet, it can also refer to sexual (online and offline) exploitations. Being forced to watch something against your will also is sexual abuse. Fears of judgment or exposure can stop victims from sharing their experiences with friends or loved ones. Talking to a counselor can help navigate the conflicting thoughts and to come up with a way out.
Trauma: An experience of being in extremely stressful (even dangerous) situation that made you feel powerless and frightened can be called Trauma. Natural disasters, major accidents or being a victim of mugging or attack can leave you in trauma. It may fill you with feelings of being out of control, unsafe and vulnerable. It can result in a reduction of capacity to cope with the pressure of daily life although the event is well in the past. Emotional and psychological trauma may be experienced even much after the physical effects have healed. You may wonder why you are not able to ‘get over it.’ Talking to a trained counselor can help you to explore your feelings in the phase of trauma and help you find a space to heal from within as well as, as your body recovers from the physicals effects of the injury.
Disability: Some people are born with ‘Disability’ and others may be disabled on account of a major accident. These and other individual differences make coping with ‘Disability’ different to different people. Some have completely accepted/adapted to any change in the way they interact with the world because of their disability. In the case of those who may experience a ‘disability’ later in life (for example, following an accident or illness) it may be even more challenging to reach acceptance and come to terms with the consequences of disability. Defense and police service personnel may suffer life-changing injuries, physical impacts as well as the emotional impact at work. Psychological problems can affect individuals concerned as well as their families and can continue for a while. Counselling offers the opportunity to talk about such feelings and emotions with a mature understanding counselor, and this can help restore mental balance.
Cancer: A cancer diagnosis will usually impact not only the patient but all those around them. Treatment can be strenuous, and individuals and families may feel that an uncertain and unknown future has been thrust upon them. This, in turn, can invoke feelings of fear and helplessness. Physical changes can be that of hair and weight loss, weakness, and frailty. These usually impact the individual’s emotional state. Patients also tend to have unanswered questions about possibilities and options. A knowledgeable and compassionate counselor can be a great help throughout the problematic phase.
AIDS/HIV: It is true that many advances have been made in the treatment of HIV/AIDS, and that people are able to manage the condition better, stay healthy and live longer lives. However, you may still have issues with acceptance or fears concerning your future. Counseling can be helpful if you want to talk in confidence with someone who can empathize with you and offer you support.
Anger: If you are aware that angry emotions and behaviors are hurting your life as well as that of those around you, it can be beneficial to seek counseling. While some people may not have the words to express their feelings when angry and may, therefore, suppress their anger, others may ‘lash out’ verbally or physically at others. Counseling can help you identify the triggers to your anger and guide you with tools that will help you recognize and find balance in situations where you experience excessive anger. Talking to a therapist can help you realize that although anger is a normal emotion – if it is starting to impact upon your life negatively there are ways to help you ‘manage’ your anger.
Low self-confidence: Low self-confidence can cause people to underestimate their own abilities, often leading to disappointment. You may have been confident earlier or perhaps not. Frequently life events also can result in people losing their confidence. Someone with low confidence might continuously second-guess themselves, or have negative thoughts about their own capabilities.
Low self-esteem: There are many reasons for Low self-esteem. It often starts in childhood. Suffering individuals may be Someone suffering from low self-esteem will be troubled by thoughts that they’re not ‘good enough.’ Sometimes it also affects their capacity for assertiveness and decision making. Often they may also not be able to defend themselves effectively when they had not made a mistake, leading to taking the blame when they were not at fault. Talking to a counselor can launch you on your journey to recover your self-esteem and being more in at peace with yourself when in the company of people.
Assertiveness: In work as well as in personal life, some people find it difficult to express their thoughts and ideas or get their points of view across. Counseling can teach you a range of techniques and exercises to help you learn how to be assertive which can, in turn, increase your sense of fulfillment at work and life.
Social Phobia/Shyness: While shyness is a fairly common feeling, it doesn’t disrupt life, if it is mild. Most people worry about meeting new people. However, once they are with them, they relax and enjoy the situation. However, if one has social phobia, one gets extremely anxious when one is with other people. In the long term, social phobia can potentially lead to other issues of the mind such as depression or drug and alcohol abuse. In some cases, people may even develop ‘agoraphobia’ resulting from a feeling of dread at the thought of leaving their house. A counselor can help you by working with you to develop social skills that can help you experience a difference in the way you feel about yourself and other people.
Adoption: Adopted children as well as adults (who were adopted when they were children), may have feelings that are unresolved about their past. You may have intentions as well as uncertainties about exploring your history or planning for the future in the light of what you learn about yourself. On the other hand, if you are planning to adopt a child, you may have several questions and concerns concerning your relationship and the future. These may be impacting your confidence. Speaking with a counselor will help you as they have helped many people struggling with similar concerns and uncertainties.
Gender identity: Some people are more comfortable in same-sex relationships as some are in opposite-sex relationships. To bear a sexual identity that seems uncommon in your culture can feel intimidating. There is a fear of losing acceptance. Sexual identify may change during a person’s life and is not ‘fixed in stone’ – it can be very fluid. Confusions about gender identity are sometimes referred to as gender dysphoria. If you feel confused about your gender identity, speaking to a specialist counselor – particularly one who has taken additional training in transgender and sexual diversity areas can help.
Anxiety: Anxiety is when feelings such as apprehension and worry ‘expecting the worst’ has become an everyday thing for you. This is often accompanied by disturbing physical experiences as sleeplessness, sweaty palms, ‘pounding’ of the heart, and sometimes even panic attacks. Often anxiety may be experienced in response to specific situations or may be a feeling that seems to sustain or happen too often. An activity like public speaking invokes anxious feelings. Everyone can relate to this. But when you suffer from anxiety, it may seem like you are always in uncertainty and fear. And you may feel like you may lose control anytime. It can make life feel tough. A counselor can help you identify the source of your anxiety and give you various skills to use to deal with it as it occurs.
Depression: Sometimes people may become depressed as a reaction to a tragic life event. This may not last long. But sometimes you may find that either with good reasons or for no apparent reason you can think of, an undercurrent of a feeling of melancholy has become the default and pervasive state in your life. Depression can affect anybody: children, adults, women and men and it can arrive at any stage in life. It is essential to talk to your GP if you are feeling depressed. They may suggest that you see a counselor who can gently engage you by employing techniques to challenge your negative thought patterns.
Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD): OCD is a different kind of anxiety disorder which is characterized by unwanted/intrusive thoughts. These thoughts can cause some people to behave in an obsessional or repetitive way as a reaction to those thoughts. For instance, when you leave the house, you may feel the need to recheck the lock numerous times to ensure the front door is indeed closed, or you may feel the need to count your steps, and if you miss one, you may start all over again. Sometimes these rituals are done to feel relief from feelings of anxiety. If you think that there are recurring, negative thoughts coming into your mind that you feel troubled by (because you want to get rid of them), or if you feel the need to count things or repeat the same action (like washing your hands) over and over again, you may have OCD. Counseling can be helpful to identify the source of your anxieties and learn techniques to help you change the obsessive behaviors.
Psychosis: In Psychosis the suffering individual may experience a distortion of reality. Someone suffering a psychotic episode will hear or see things that don’t exist or believe things that aren’t true. Psychosis is caused by mental illness, extreme stress or injury to the brain. Counseling therapy can help you to see through your distortive thought patterns.
Schizophrenia: In Schizophrenia someone may lose touch with reality. The disorder is characterized by “Positive,” “Negative” and “Cognitive” symptoms. ‘Positive’ symptoms cause hallucinations/delusions, ‘Negative’ symptoms cause disruption to emotions, and ‘Cognitive’ symptoms cause changes to memory and difficulties in processing information. A counselor can help you through a series of therapy sessions using CBT to set you free.
Panic disorder/Panic Attacks: Panic disorder is an anxiety disorder which causes someone to have frequent and recurrent panic attacks. These attacks may bring on a very physical onset of anxiety symptoms, such as palpitations, shaking, sweating, shortness of breath, nausea, and dizziness. As the name suggests, they often appear out of the blue. Counseling therapy can help you with a range of techniques to overcome panic attacks.
Bipolar disorder: This is a mental health condition wherein suffering individuals experience extreme mood swings, ranging from periods of mania (feeling very high with lots of energy) to periods of depression (feeling very down and weak). Reaching out to a counselor to help you recognize, manage and navigate the extreme mood swings.
Phobias: Phobias are extreme fears that may seem irrational to others but very real to the person who has it. When the dread is of a heightened nature, it may impact the individual and their families by making them dysfunctional or irrational. Counseling can help by empowering you to confront the phobias gently and systematically. It also enables you to explore how they work such as why you may have it in the first place, where does it emerge from, how does it sustain, etc. It also teaches you how you can take control of your feelings and reactions to the fear.
Substance: Addiction refers to behaviors that have presently gone out of control or become disruptive to your life that you may have initially started for enjoyment or passing the time. These can be related to alcohol, computer games, smoking, social media, drugs, gambling, sex or food. Addictions tend to hurt several areas of your life. Talking to a counselor will help build coping skills to regain control of your life.
The spectrum of Disorders: There is a spectrum of problematic behaviors under the eating disorders category. They differ based on the reasons, quantity, frequency or choices of food that individuals consume. Anorexia and Bulimia are two severe disorders in this spectrum. Physical effects of eating disorders can be quite harmful to individuals and in extreme cases even fatal. Counseling can help with identifying the underlying issues and thought patterns that may be causing the problems (example, body image, social media pressure, etc.) Talking to your counselor can offer emotional support and comfort to individuals by first helping them recognize why they have an issue with eating. This enables them to help themselves, on the journey to recovery.
Body dysmorphic disorder: This is a disorder symptomized by excessive anxiety resulting from a distorted view of one’s body. Sufferers will typically spend a lot of time obsessing or worrying about the appearance of a specific area of their body.
Anorexia nervosa: When someone has Anorexia nervosa, because of the desire to be thin they may hugely restrict their food intake. Their attitude to weight gain borders on heightened fear and they may also have an inaccurate body image.
Bulimia nervosa: Someone suffering from bulimia will be very fearful of gaining weight, and usually have a distorted view of their body. However, this eating disorder is characterized by the sufferer overeating and then throwing up or taking laxatives to get the excess food out of their system.
Binge-eating: When an individual consumes excessive quantities of food on a regular basis as a way of dealing with painful emotions, they probably have Binge-eating disorder
Suicidal thoughts: Suicidal thoughts can range from fleeting thoughts about putting an end to your own life. It may emerge from feelings that other people may be better off without you. Suicidal thoughts may also involve detailed planning. If you have any ideas about taking your own life, you must talk to an expert. Please leave this site immediately and contact the suicide helplines below. On the other hand, if you are experiencing suicidal feelings generally but do not feel that you will take action, then you will benefit from a counselor to learn strategies to cultivate positive thoughts and live a balanced and fulfilling life.
Self-Injury: People may involve in a range of acts of self-harm such as piercing, cutting, burning, taking tablets, or swallowing objects. Self-Harm is more common among women and young people. It is also prevalent among gay and bisexual people. Some people engage in acts of self-harm on a regular basis that is can almost be an addiction. A counselor can help you understand and explore your self-harming behavior. They usually have experience of helping people who self-harm.
Caregivers: Often caregivers may find themselves feeling unsupported and exhausted. You may feel angry and abandoned yourself. But at the same time, you have expectations to be met – that of ‘being strong’ be “strong” and dependable for the person under your care. Perhaps you also having to cope with issues with finances additionally have other dependents as well. With your counselor, you can talk about your feelings and seek help in creating coping strategies to manage or share the load.
Parents: Most people use their own experience as a child to form the basis of parenting for their children. Often since they have had good parenting examples to learn from, they may raise their children in a balanced environment of discipline and freedom. However, some people have not had the opportunity to experience ‘good’ parenting. They need a lot of support to understand what they may do and what they may not as parents. They benefit from discussing with a trained counselor. Even for those, tho have had good parenting in their childhood, counseling can enhance their parenting skills – for example, in interpreting the child’s behavior, evaluating their responses to children, etc. Parenting skills can help you ‘stand back’ and see each situation with clarity. Your counselor can talk to your child independently and understand their point of view. In cases where you need special skills, you could also learn techniques to handle certain difficult behaviors with your child.
Borderline personality disorder: Someone suffering from “borderline personality disorder” may experience unstable moods or have difficulties controlling their emotions. They may also tend to behave impulsively. This personality disorder usually affects the way the suffering individual relates to someone else.
Antisocial personality disorder: Antisocial personality disorder – otherwise known as sociopathy – is a severe personality disorder characterized by manipulative behavior and a disregard for others. Someone suffering from the antisocial personality disorder can appear charming on the surface level but behave in a very dishonest way.
Attachment disorder: Attachment disorder is a condition which usually affects people who have been abused or neglected from a young age. Someone suffering from an attachment disorder will have difficulties forming healthy attachments, becoming very avoidant or behaving in an inappropriately friendly way with strangers.
Avoidant personality disorder: This personality disorder is an anxious personality disorder and is characterized by high social anxiety. The resultant behavior the sufferer often engages in is to entirely avoid social situations to protect themselves from the possibility of rejection. Hence the term avoidant personality disorder.
Schizotypical: Schizotypal personality disorder is a personality disorder characterized by an inability to form close relationships, and eccentric or peculiar thoughts, behavior or speech. Someone with schizotypal disorder might talk at irregular intervals, and suffer paranoid thoughts and extreme social anxiety.
Schizoid personality disorder: This personality disorder is characterized by an inability to form social relationships. Someone suffering from “schizoid personality disorder” will typically choose to live a very solitary lifestyle and may appear as cold or detached.
Paranoid personality disorder: Paranoid personality disorder is an anxious personality disorder which causes someone to be very suspicious of others. Someone suffering from the paranoid personality disorder will typically steer clear of forming close bonds with other people and appear as cold or calculating.
Dependent personality disorder: This personality disorder is again an anxious personality disorder characterized by individuals showing excessive dependency on specific people around them. Sufferers may feel they are not able to make decisions alone. Often they feel the need of other individuals around them to offer them constant assurance. As a result, sufferers may look as though they are clinging on and not letting go.
Narcissistic personality disorder: As the name suggests this personality disorder is one where someone ends up having distorted or exaggerated notions about themselves. Someone suffering from narcissistic personality disorder may even appear to be manipulative or attention-seeking, and they may display an evident lack of empathy for others.
Histrionic personality disorder: This personality disorder is a personality disorder which causes someone to behave often in quite dramatic or emotionally charged ways. The behaviors of individuals suffering from this disorder may feel inappropriate or attention seeking as a way to gain approval.
Dissociation: In dissociation, the individual disconnects from their thoughts and feelings resulting in a distance from their sense of identity. Suffering individuals may have experiences and sensations of being in a “trance-like” or “detached state” where they are experiencing a distance from reality.
Spirituality Related: Sometimes the spiritual journey may seem as too daunting. It may be ridden with confusion and frustration. You may lose faith or let down by something you have devoted so much of your life to. In other cases, the ideas that appeared to make sense at one point in time may suddenly seem to make no sense at all suddenly. They may even seem to conflict and contradict thereby confusing you. Talking to a counselor can help you take a step back gently, so you are able to achieve greater clarity and composure as you move forward.
General unhappiness: Perhaps there is nothing really wrong with your life but you just generally feel unhappy. You may not understand the reason why but you do recognize that something must change. You may even feel the need to talk to someone about your feelings and get help with making the changes that will help you feel better. Speaking with a counselor can give you a ‘sounding board’ to help you identify the reasons for your unhappiness. It can offer the opportunity to reflect on your feelings deeply. It can also be a beneficial exercise in helping you acknowledge your achievements and think about ideas and plans for the future so that you are future focused and confident.
Cultural issues: Either because of a life choice or because of events that occur in our lives or that of our loved ones we are sometimes forced to move from our homeland where we spent much of our time to a country and culture that is strange to us. This can be stressful for some of us, particularly to those who have not traveled much. Customs and traditions, as well as cultural sensitivities of the new land, can feel intimidating sometimes and the cause of much daily stress. Counseling can help immigrants make sense of the world that their loved ones have chosen to be in by assisting them to understand the customs, traditions, and approaches where everything may appear to be foreign or strange. Understanding how to navigate cultural differences and customs is much easier if you have someone who can share advice and experiences with you.
Bullying: Bullying can happen to children as well as adults. And when it happens, it can make you feel very isolated, terrified and even powerless. And with social media, you may even feel that the bullies are following you into the security and comfort of your own homes – as though your exits are sealed, and there is no escape. Counseling can allow you a space to share what is happening with a trusted person who understands and has experience in dealing with bullying. You share in great confidence and so do not feel alone or vulnerable anymore. Also, you can remain assured that you will not be judged. Your counselor can help you find a solution to deal with what you may be facing currently as well as teach you skills to deal with the situation in the future.
Childhood Trauma: Disturbing events and traumas that affect adults in a family can also have its effects on children. Children may feel overwhelmed with what’s going on and they may be confused about their experiences and may have difficulty expressing their thoughts on what’s going on. A counselor can help because they know how to work with children by empowering them with tools and techniques to deal with their feelings in the phase of stressful life events. It is for this reason that many schools offer counseling services.
Childhood Depression and Anxiety: It is normal to feel sad, hurt or upset as well as experience a range of emotions as one moves through one’s growing years. However, for some children, these feelings may persist for a longer duration thereby having an effect on their emotional and mental health. Depression and anxiety are genuine concerns for children. It can affect how children think, feel and behave, as well as the quality of their life. Also, anxiety and depression in children may appear different than they do in adults.
Adolescence: Although everyone goes through puberty, the individual experiences of each are different. As a young person, transitioning from childhood to adulthood can be a chaotic experience – several changes are occurring in your body, mind, and the environment in general. Often these result in mood swings, anger, and frustration. You also have pressures from your peers, social media and other things that are swiftly changing around you. You may feel uncomfortable at the idea of discussing these issues with your friends or family since you think they may judge you, admonish you, or advise you to be in a certain way. However, talking to a counselor can be very reassuring since your counselor has dealt with several adolescents and understands what is going on.
Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD): This is a disorder that typically has as its symptom difficulty for the child in paying attention, impulsive behavior and hyperactivity. While some children may have symptoms in all of the above categories, others might have symptoms in only one or two.
ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder): ASD s a group of difficulties of which Autism is the central condition. Autism is a serious neurodevelopmental disorder caused by abnormalities in brain development and working. It appears in early childhood (usually before age 3). Symptoms as well as severity are seen to vary. However, ASD’s effect is typically on the child’s capacity to communicate and interact with others.
Asperger’s Syndrome: Asperger’s syndrome refers to the state of people in ASD characterized by higher functioning and average intellectual capacity. Also, there are lesser delays in starting to talk. Counseling can help children and families in several ways such as for example by offering information about the condition, ways to manage behavioral difficulties and methods of developing social communication and emotional skills.
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Saarathi Counselling for Couples
It takes work, to build trust!
Relationships take work.
As individuals, each relationship is unique, with people coming from different family backgrounds, cultures, educational backgrounds and value systems. Particularly individual values, as well as the extent to which they are ingrained in each partner, together with the other factors, contribute to the setting of the unique dynamic of your relationship. Often there is high conflict, and partners are struggling to make things work and find peace. They do their best time and again to resolve the conflicts. But often doesn’t solve problems and sometimes matters get worse. Yet many couples go on and on for years responding with the same approach to their issues concerning connection, communication, commitment or any other issues in their relationship.
Saarathi relationship-focused therapy for couples can help.
Saarathi for Couples can offer each of you a non-intimidating, safe, kind and guiding environment to untie conflict creating knots in your relationship, to regain respect or to nurture love.
When does Saarathi help?
Often conflicts arise and sustain, as partners struggle to find peace. Couples in such situations find it helpful to seek expert light to break free from the conflict and pain generating patterns in their relationship.
They also find value in seeking expert guidance when they have decided that they are into a serious relationship and are preparing for the long haul. This helps them help establish a robust framework for their future.
Why Saarathi Counselling for Couples!
- People may feel intimidated or uncomfortable discussing sensitive issues in in-person counseling sessions.
- When questions are asked, people may have difficulty verbalizing their emotions and feelings.
- People need space to be patient and thoughtful before sharing emotional issues
- Organizing a face to face appointment can be complicated for various reasons
- Costs are high for in-person appointments.
Features of Saarathi Counselling for Couples!
- Choose a mode of engagement that feels most non-threatening for you until
- Take your time, to compose your response
- Text therapist whenever/wherever you have a thought
- Break free from scheduling complications
- Highly affordable.
What you need to do!
- Take time with your partner to agree on issues you’d like to see resolved
- Answer the questions on the Saarathi platform
- Connect you with your licensed therapist to set goals
- Work with a therapist to on a treatment plan
- Start reconnecting with your partner
- Deepen your bond
- Understand one another and yourselves better
Does Couples Therapy Really Work?
“Research studies repeatedly demonstrate the effectiveness of marriage and family therapy in treating the full range of mental and emotional disorders and health problems.” (Source: American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy)
Studies have also shown that couples’ therapy can be more effective than counseling for each individual partner alone.
When is Saarathi for Couples right for you?
Here are some of the areas addressed by Saarathi for Couples:
Living like Roommates: Married partners want to feel connected. They want the emotional channels of communication to be open at all times. However, several relationships often get stuck in negative communication patterns. Similar arguments are repeated, a resolution is nowhere in sight and feelings of love and care are replaced with feelings of hopelessness and sadness. This situation runs parallel to a fading of sexual intimacy, you might start to wonder if you’re even in love anymore. When you begin to talk, you have a fight you may say “here we go again” Often the sense of dead end may make partners feel like giving up. When couples get tired of this pattern, they sometimes stop trying and just get through the day and run the “family business” of paying the bills and taking care of the kids, etc. At this point, couples begin to feel like strangers or roommates. These can be very lonely and painful times for couples. Counseling can help by rekindling the love within couples, so they regain their sense of respect and care for each other. The process can also help you in working on getting your intimacy back!
Infidelity: Finding out that your partner has been unfaithful can hit you like a ton of bricks. Your marriage may be thrown into a state of crisis that may destroy it. It is natural to want to know why your partner cheated, but there is rarely a simple answer to why someone becomes unfaithful. It could be a symptom of other problems in your marriage, it could relate to something in your partner’s past, or it could be totally unrelated to you or to your marriage. No matter the cause, you’ll have a lot of complicated feelings to sort through, and a lot to think about as you decide how to move forward. However, although it may seem too complicated, it is possible to repair your relationship after an “affair.” You need support recovering and rebuilding. You can restore trust, and arrive at a level of intimacy even more balanced and mature than what you had before. Partners and individuals in relationships can learn about themselves and their relationships from affairs. Counseling can help you heal and grow to move forward.
In-law problems: It is the rare marriage that has no in-law problems. Think about it – you picked your spouse, but that spouse comes with the baggage of a whole family. Malcolm X once jokingly commented that he feels in-laws were actually out-laws. It is ideal if the in-laws themselves sketch a boundary and operate according to it, but in most situations, this is not the case. In these circumstances, it is up to their grown children to enforce those boundaries. But be assured that there is nothing wrong with your marriage if you have to deal with bills, kids, faulty plumbing, and your in-laws’ eccentrics. Though it is normal to have an argument with your in-laws, recurrent fights can cause a strain in the relationship with your spouse and may impact negatively on the overall mood of your household. You may start to get easily agitated, while your spouse may get the feeling that you are not coping with the situation accordingly. Also, such arguments influence the children in a destructive way as well.
Breakdown: The breakdown of a relationship can be difficult and painful. By the very nature of the situation, the person you would usually turn to share, reflect, seek opinions and support from is disconnected from you. You do not know what is wrong. Our you do but are not sure how to bring it up with your partner since it is a sensitive subject and you the life of trust already seems fragile to discuss delicate topics. Further, the things you want to address are not things you’d like to discuss outside your relationship. Talking to a counselor either individually or as a couple can be helpful to help you manage your difficulties within your relationship and how best to move forward.
Divorce: You are considering a break-up and need help seeing if there is any hope or if it is indeed the right thing to do. Perhaps both of you feel hopeless and even agree that breaking up or getting divorced is the only option. Or maybe you think so, but your partner feels otherwise. It is a big decision, especially when children are involved. Are you doing the right thing? Are you basing your decisions on accurate assessments of the situation? Do you have grounds to give the relationship another chance? Counseling can help each of you weigh your options, determine if there is any hope for your relationship and gain clarity, so you have confidence in the choice you make.
Financial Problems in Marriage: married life can suffer a setback, if there are financial issues in a relationship and the partners do not work it out properly to solve these problems. In studies conducted by experts, financial issues have been included as one of the top reasons for a divorce. So, it is always better to be aware of financial problems, if any, and find effective ways to deal with them. This is one of the basic issues that married couples face. They are not clear about whose salary should be used for household expenses and whose should go in for savings. Lack of planning leads to confusion, ultimately resulting in differences between a couple.
Parenting: If you and your spouse or partner don’t agree on discipline strategies, you’re not alone. Couples come from different backgrounds and have different temperaments. One may be more tolerant while the other is strict. While these differences can be complementary at times, they can also lead to conflict. What should you do if you don’t agree on discipline strategies as parents?
Problems in the Bedroom: Which came first—the chicken or the egg? There are good arguments for both, which is why the collective population can’t all agree on it. Married couples with sex issues can look at things the same way. Did the sex dry up on its own, or did other issues creep into the bedroom? Sometimes the answer to that question is very hard to pinpoint. Marriages always have their hard times and their easier times. When we have easier times, things are just floating along. During those times, we may take each other for granted. We probably even take the amount of sex we are having for granted. But then, come the hard times. Maybe there is a new baby in the mix, or moving to a new city. Perhaps a new job or a death in the family. High levels of stress over a long period of time will zap us all of our energy and zest for life. Sometimes, at the end of the day, it feels as if there is nothing left to give. Our marriages—and sex—are low on the priority list. Unfortunately, sex problems in marriage sometimes get put on the back burner. And over time when we don’t do it very often, we lose some of our libidos. If you are facing problems in the bedroom, here are some bedroom sex tips and advice for married couples to keep in mind:
Chronic health issues: Any kind of long-term illness can be extremely tough for married couples as one spouse struggles to cope with the symptoms and effects of illness and the other takes on a career role, trying their best to look after their ailing spouse. It looks very different for each spouse, but for both, it can be hard to know how to cope. Instead of focusing on individual things each spouse can do, it is helpful to think in terms of joint coping: both spouses taking responsibility for coping with the illness and sharing stressors and resources
Family Therapy: Families change and grow along with each individual family member. Behaviors of each family member can affect the whole family. Common change such as the birth of a new child, the illness or death of an elderly family member and even something such as the ‘empty nest syndrome’ can affect the dynamic of the entire family. Family therapy may involve sessions with different parts of the family system (parents, siblings, etc.,) It helps families learn how to create respectful relationships and build cohesive bonds by establishing healthy boundaries, clear roles, and improving teamwork. Also, counseling focuses, if necessary, on helping Parents learn how they can discipline children in a way that keeps a positive relationship. It can bring stability and comfort for everyone in the family while fostering a sense of security and emotional wellbeing for children which will help them thrive in their future lives and relationships.
Saarathi for Social Media Addiction
Break free from excessive dependency on Social Media
We enjoy and feel entertained by Social Media, but we wish we had used it a bit lesser than we actually did. Statistics indicate that people check their phones about 150 times per day on an average. Of all the time spent online, at least around 30% is spent on Social Media. But that’s just the average. The reality for you may be much higher.
Saarathi for Social Media Dependency may be just the thing for you!
The problem with Social Media
Not anymore is excessive time spent on social media regarded merely a ‘bad habit”. It is instead considered to be a mental health issue as research proves that it can distort our perception of reality and self-image. Here are some examples:
- Use of Social Media is associated with higher rates of disordered eating
(Source: The International Journal of Eating Disorders)
- 2 of 3 participants said they had difficulty with sleep after using Social Media
(Source: Anxiety UK)
- Correlation seen between the use of social media and the development of a distorted body image
(Source: The International Journal of Eating Disorders)
- Excessive time spent on Social Media can cause anxiety, and can negatively impact personal relationships
(Source: Anxiety UK)
- There is a high relationship between Social Media use and increased symptoms of depression (Source: A 2012 study)
- 25% of participants in the study reported having difficulties with relationships and work because of online confrontations
(Source: Anxiety UK)
Saarathi for Social Media Addiction
Bring control to how you respond and use social media platforms like Instagram, Twitter, WhatsApp, Facebook, etc. It is an 8-week program to teach you personalized strategies to deal with Social Media’s impact on your mental health and life in general. You can message your counselor anytime and from anywhere. You can use any device – smartphone, laptop, or PC.
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Mental Health At Work: A fact that is often overlooked is that Mental health problems affect many employees at work. Almost half of all long-term sickness is believed to be due to untreated mental health problems at work. Further mental health issues impact more of one’s capacity to perform than any other injury/disability or illness. These problems affect both employees and employers. While for employees the impact is on their career, health, and wellness, for employers, the disorders may cause absenteeism and lost productivity. The right support is necessary for people with mental health issues at work so they can thrive in the workplace. Studies suggest that treatment improves work performance. Consider availing Saarathi counseling services for your employees.
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Stigma: Mental health disorders tend to be suppressed or hidden at work. Research that analyzed individuals in the age group of 15 to 54 reported that 18% of those who were employed had experienced symptoms of a mental health issue the previous month. Employees tend to be reluctant to seek treatment if they are in doubt of having a psychiatric disorder out of fear that they might lose their jobs. The fear of jeopardizing one’s career in the present economic climate is even more serious a matter, and rightfully so. The other problem is that people with mental health issues feel discriminated against, this fear makes people prefer to be discreet about their issue. This stigma is a concern for people.
Saaathi counseling services for business, your employees can avail the services in the comfort and privacy of their offices or homes. Stigma is totally gone.
Early signs: When employees show the following symptoms, it may be essential to pause and take note: changes to their normal dealing with colleagues, changes to eating and sleep habits they seem to be suffering from, feeling depressed or down, becoming increasingly emotional, becoming withdrawn, becoming nervous and demotivated, feeling confused and disappointed, etc. When signs persist, they may also lose confidence, and find it difficult to focus on work, lose interest in work, miss deadlines, feel disengaged or get tired too quickly.
If an employee is showing signs, it is imperative for them to consult a doctor. Sometimes it can get better upon taking some time off work to recover. It is essential not to continue to work – particularly stressful work, as it can worsen the situation. However, if employees feel well enough to keep to work, it is essential to talk to a colleague they trust or to a line manager, about what they are going through. Even the sheer fact of discussing can be hope inspiring and uplifting. And if need be, they can go for online counseling.
Invest in your team’s well-being: Saarathi allows employees to access help swiftly thereby enabling them to resolve issues before they start to significantly impact them.
Mental Health Issues at Work and Reasons:
Stress @ Work: While some pressure at work can actually be motivating, but when it becomes excessive, it can lead to a breakdown. Stress Management is vital for employee’s overall health. Work-related stress is also caused by job uncertainties, work relationship problems, the pressure in managing change, poor support, too much or too little demand from work, too much ambiguity in tasks, lack of control, etc.
Anxiety @ Work: Having high levels of anxiety can have a significant impact on employees’ ability to work. Anxiety takes many forms, such as general anxiety to anxiety triggered by a particular situation such as making a presentation, a performance discussion, etc. Employees experiencing anxiety may seem unusually worried or fearful in most circumstances. They may even make excuses to not to socialize or attend meetings often. Anxiety can also include other signs such as becoming easily irritable, not meeting deadlines, restlessness, difficulty in focusing, etc.,
Panic attacks @ Work: Attacks of Panic are characterized by intense feelings of fear often verging on dread, along with various symptoms in the body such as pounding of the heart, headache, paced breathing, etc. They too are signs of anxiety rather common in today’s workplace. If left unmanaged, they can become more persistent and severe making it difficult for employees to work.
Depression @ Work: When feelings of sadness persist in intensity and breadth and become pervasive, as opposed to being occasional which is customary to the human experience, it may be a sign of depression for the employee. Particularly if the symptoms continue for more than two weeks. If left untreated this can turn to be disruptive and can affect everyday life. Depression usually develops slowly and has a range of reasons for its cause. They can be because of excessive workload, unsociable hours, a project that has gone wrong, job insecurity, issues, etc.
Colleagues may want to help but aren’t sure how to do go about. On the other hand, clinicians not adept in dealing with mental health issues may find themselves in unknown territory. As a result, mental health issues at work often go undetected or untreated.
Saarathi is built for the work context of today: It takes mere minutes to match a professional counselor to your team member, giving your team members a simple, seamless way to seek help for their mental or emotional health concerns.
Effects of Mental Health Issues at Work:
Productivity, career, and Health: This impacts the individual’s productivity in the short term and the individual’s career, health and the general sense of wellness in the long term. Ready treatment at hand, can not only alleviate symptoms for employees but also improves job performance.
Absenteeism: Mental health problems affect the way employees think, feel and behave. These problems can range from the minor low mood to severe disorders such as schizophrenia, bipolar or psychosis. They may appear gradually over time or suddenly. However, most work absences involving mental health problems are due to stress, anxiety, or depression. The causes of work-related issues can vary. They may emerge from matters related to tasks at work, challenges with the work environment or with colleagues. However, they may also arise from non-work associated problems such as problems at home with relationships or finances or other issues.
Saarathi not only has mental health counselors but also counselor’s adept at ensuring your employees are back on track with their tasks projects so that they perform well and feel fulfilled and satisfied.
Prevention @ Work: Encouraging an open culture: Positive work cultures are those where there is a possibility for open discussion on any topic that affects work, including mental health issues. Facing up to a mental health issue and how it makes one feel, can prove to be the all-important first step in breaking the cycle of uncertainty, insecurity, and fear for employees. The ability to speak about one’s anxieties with office colleagues in a relaxed setting can help employees regain control of their lives. If not employees may be silent and the complication may compound
Employees be Alert! If you are an employee or a team leader, it is important to be on the watch out for yourself and your colleagues. The alarm bells must go off if you ever feel overwhelmed by your emotional issues or are unable to cope. It is important to speak out about how you’re feeling to friends, loved ones or trusted colleagues. Sharing your feelings with a trusted someone can prevent you from feeling isolated and out-of-control. Spotting the early signs and taking remedial measures can put you on the path to recovery and avoid the problem from compounding.
Saarathi, Anytime Anywhere Access: Once you or a team member is matched to a professional Saarathi Counsellor, they can message their therapists from any time and anywhere. There also is a video chat feature that deepens their connection with their therapist.
These conditions can be treated effectively with therapy. Sometimes there may be a need for medication. There are also several self-help techniques you can use to treat the symptoms yourself.
Talk to your Saarathi counselor if you are ever in need.